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Chuck’s Place: Injured Maybe, Offended Never

Never get offended…
– Photo by Jan Ketchel

When it really matters, when we are really threatened, something in us seizes control and acts. Awareness of the acts we perform in this heightened state of awareness may instantly be lost to memory as we shift back to our ordinary state of awareness, like when an intense dream is immediately forgotten upon awakening.

Immediately upon shifting out of these non-ordinary states of reality our internal dialogue takes charge, filling our minds to the brim with the affairs of everyday life, as our just moments ago extraordinary adventures fade into oblivion. In psychoanalytic language, our internal dialogue delivers us to a full blown neurosis. A caricature of how it operates would be a Woody Allen/Doubting Thomas character whose mind incessantly ruminates, doubts, and judges both self and others.

The salient feature of this obsessive thinking is its fixation upon feeling offended by the actions of others or blaming the self for the way things are; in effect, feeling offended by one’s own actions and limitations.

That we all have an internal dialogue is a necessary fact of life. In fact, as the Shamans of Ancient Mexico point out, its incessant defining and judging functions allow us to interpret and navigate the solid world we live in. However, the debilitating side of this nonstop chatter in our minds is that it distracts us from our capacity to live a richer life in a state of heightened awareness.

Indeed, we can be injured by the intentional actions of others, but to attach to the constant  promptings of the internal dialogue, to be offended by the behavior of other or self, is to relegate the lion’s share of one’s energy to inconsequential, emotional self-defeat. Put bluntly, it’s a major waste of energy.

We needn’t obsess to address real occasions of injury, for as previously stated, when needed, something within us will spring forth and act without the necessity of lengthy deliberation. Even the action of freezing, or leaving one’s body under the impact of violent attack, reflects instinctive knowing of how best to survive. The internal dialogue is of no value when it really counts.

Shamans recommend freeing oneself from spending one’s energy on feeling offended. The energetic savings accrued by this allows one to gain greater access to living in a richer state of heightened awareness, where one enjoys, and is fully present to, all that is possible in life.

Don Juan Matus calls this state the mood of the warrior, where one is fully energetically alive in each moment in a state of inner silence. Pragmatically, this entails refusing the promptings of the internal dialogue to attach to any interpretations of being offended, and responding instead to the actual presenting needs of each moment.

The thinking mind might have a role in deliberating a decision, but silence allows the truth of the heart to spark spontaneous right action. This is living in the Tao of heightened awareness.

The best guidance for freeing oneself from the energy drain and limiting perspective of the internal dialogue is to allow it to just be, to not engage it, to not argue with or fight against it. Rather than be offended by life, particularly in this time of great offensive talk, respond like a warrior who acts from the place of what is truly needed to survive and prevail, in the best interest of all.

Yes, acknowledge that the acts of others can injure you, and do take decisive action to protect the self whenever necessary, but don’t waste any energy on being offended by the acts of others, as the internal dialogue would have you do.

Finally, place no attachment on the outcome of your decisive actions; fulfillment is already achieved in the purity of the warrior’s decisive act.

Without offense,

Chuck

Soulbyte for Friday September 6, 2019

Remember that each day is a new beginning, an opportunity to make a change, to be different, to finally do what you have longed to do. Each new day offers a fresh start. Today too is another new day and another new opportunity is at hand. What will you do with it? A warrior chooses always the path with heart, the way that is the only one that matters, where the heart leads. A warrior knows, as each new day comes, that a path with heart is the only real choice.

Sending you love,

The Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Monday August 26, 2019

True warriors of the world, warriors of love, pierce the darkness with your light. Turn your love on and let it shine, for without you there will be no light in the darkness to show the way. The times call for those of light and love to lead the way. If you know the truth of love, that it is the answer to the greatest needs, then do not hold back. Let go of your personal distresses and focus on the impersonal wholeness that is necessary to enact the goal of the true warrior, to carry forth love in the heart no matter how painful or debilitating. A true warrior always chooses a path with heart, and a true warrior knows that indeed love is the answer.

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Friday August 23, 2019

A true warrior always chooses a path with heart. A warrior chooses love over hate, kindness over malice, compassion over disregard. A warrior does not turn away from that which challenges but instead turns toward the strengths within, for a warrior knows that everything that is necessary to travel a path with heart lies waiting to be discovered within. A warrior knows what intent is, how to serve and conserve, how to be open and how to protect. All these things come naturally to a warrior on a path of heart because such a warrior is fueled by that which matters most, now and forever, and that is love. A warrior on a path of heart turns to love and love returns the favor.

Sending you love,

The Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Friday April 12, 2019

A warrior maintains balance in all ways, at all times, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual, no matter the circumstances. To stay in balance is to constantly walk the razor’s edge, staying in the tension of each moment, neither pulled one way nor the other, neither too much nor too little but finding life’s thrills in each moment of holding to that razor’s edge. A warrior knows that to step off the razor’s edge thwarts the journey, slows progress. A warrior’s intent is to withstand all bombardments from all levels of life, conscious and unconscious, with sharp precision. A warrior holds to the razor’s edge knowing there is no greater purpose in life than the intent to maintain balance. A warrior does this, sharp as a razor, without judgment, maintaining a path with heart, a mind filled with compassion, and loving kindness for all, including the self who may occasionally slip. But a warrior always remembers the intent of the path with heart and immediately returns to the razor’s edge, for a warrior knows that it is there that a warrior is most alert, aware, and alive.

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne