A new day is like a magic door opening to reveal a mysterious new room, an opportunity to take a new path, offering an adventure into the unknown. But each new day will quickly lose its shiny newness if the magic door is closed, if the new room is not entered, if the new path is not ventured upon. It’s only in stepping out into the newness of each new day, in embracing the adventure that lies ahead, in exploring the new rooms that are revealed that more magical opportunities will come. Be not afraid of each new day but embrace what life presents, for it may just be that this new day is the day of transformation and change that you have so longed for. Go forth with an open heart and see what happens in the magic of today!
When your mind wanders bring it back to safe anchoring with calmness of breath. Like a boat gone loose from its moorings guide it gently back to calm emptiness by tying it fast to the dock of yourself and in your mind’s eye sit beside it. As you watch the water’s rippling surface feel the gentle breeze upon your skin, the sun upon your head, and know that you are safe. Breathe in calmness, breathe out disturbance, sadness and pain. Breathe in purity and goodness, breathe out madness and evil. Breathe in love, breathe out hate. Use your mind in this manner for calmness, peace, and love. It’s within your power, the power of your own breath!
The truth is, we all suffer from an inferiority complex. Those we admire and aspire to be like either hide their’s really well or have truly come to embrace it.
And what is an inferiority complex?
Most of us could start with our bodies: too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat, too big, too small, too much, too little, etc.
Then of course there are our moral shortcomings: too lazy, too shy, undisciplined, unfocused, deceitful, lustful, jealous, power-driven, power-avoidant, self-centered, etc., to say nothing of all our bad habits!
Then there are the workings of our minds: can’t think, can’t feel, can’t be in our body senses, can’t imagine, can’t remember, etc.
Beyond all this there are the warehouses of all the terrible things we’ve thought, felt, and done in our lives. These are the sins of confessions, the personal inventory, all that we seek to forget or blot out from the true history of our lives.
The law of attraction coaches us to become singleminded in our intentions, to draw to us that which we wish to manifest. Of course, there is practical wisdom in this guidance, as prayer and mantra throughout the ages bear witness to. However, no one can manifest real love until they can acknowledge and love their own inferiority, every last bit of it.
Often we seek, in the eyes and hearts of another, a savior to free us from the prison of our inferiority. During the initial spell of blissful romance all inferiority disappears, becomes cute, or simply doesn’t matter. We glimpse the wholeness of complete self-acceptance in the blissful oneness with another. Through this fullness of acceptance we desperately seek to lift the ever-looming feeling of inferiority that nonetheless lurks in the background, stealthily waiting to attack and destroy any sign of loving acceptance of the self.
Those who briefly feel the relief of another’s love assuaging the ever-present disappointment in self, soon discover a compulsive need for constant outer reassurance. Or they simply decide that they’ve merely fooled the other person, for they simply cannot believe that that other person accepts their inferiority.
C. G. Jung was adamant that we must find compassion for the imperfect person, the monster, the eternal skeleton in the cupboard, the ugliest part of ourselves.
He himself could not stand to lose a game. He was notorious for cheating at both simple card games and more elaborate games he’d invent and play with his children. He had an affair with an unofficial second wife for decades with his wife’s full knowledge and painful acceptance. He overtly accepted and included his inferior shadow self into his life, knowing that to ignore it would be a bigger disaster. He also fully bore the tension his decisions created and, in advanced years, was able to admit to finally feeling great pain for the pain his inferior side had created for his wife. He could accept his imperfect self.
True wholeness requires that we accept all of our inferiorities, like the body parts we try so hard to hide. Perhaps it would do us animals well to spend some time in a nudist colony, to overcome our shame of our unacceptable body parts!
In the deepest sense, love is acceptance of all that we are. We will not be able to find true, soulful love until we can fully accept all of ourselves. Until then we will secretly harbor unlovability, endlessly swamped in the mire of our inferiority complexes.
Accepting our inferiorities puts us on the path to manifest true love, within and without.
The greatest healing comes not from without but from within. The greatest healing comes in reconciling with the self. The greatest healing comes in being honest with the self. The greatest healing comes in fully knowing the self. The greatest healing comes in being able to forgive the self. The greatest healing comes from the compassionate heart that turns to the self and says: I love you. Now that’s healing!
Sometimes it’s just time to move on, to let go of that which is old, worn out, done with, to leave behind something that no longer holds an energy charge, to which you give your own energy to no avail. Sometimes it’s time to change yourself rather than trying to change someone else. You might not know that this is the case if you only notice others, if you only point out how others are and never look at yourself. Is it time to look inward at what needs to change about yourself for a change? Change, by its very name, implies movement, evolution, a turning from one state to another. Change is a natural fact of life. All things change. All things transform. Is it time?