Chuck’s Place: To Not Be Offended

Don’t let obstructions get in your way, just let it flow…
– Photo by Jan Ketchel

The ruling intent of this time is to offend. Energetically, it’s a brilliant system to galvanize and employ human energy to achieve its goals. Indeed, it’s as Machiavellian as the human battery pods of The Matrix. How do we not give away our energy by becoming offended?

There is a distinction between being impacted and being offended. Offensive words generate deeds that definitely impact. The reality of impact should be acknowledged to the self and trusted others.

However, to be offended by a malicious act is a one-way ticket to the black hole of defeatism. In defeatism we lose our vital energy to the oppressor. The Shamans of Ancient Mexico observed that the greatest tyrant of them all had taken up residence in the human psyche.

Carol Tiggs, the Nagual Woman of Carlos Castaneda’s lineage, called that tyrant Bobby the Flyer. Bobby is the self-condemning voice in every human being that sentences us to that black hole of utter defeat. Bobby uses our incessant internal dialogue to keep us unworthy, stuck in our internal prison of inadequacy.

How many times a day do we hear the following words, inside our heads: “I’m bad.” “I’m inadequate.” “I’ll never be able to…”  Or, “I don’t deserve.” The internal dialogue’s commentary on outer events is equally incessantly judging: “They treat me unfairly.” “I don’t matter.” Or “they look better, younger, thinner, more stylish, or, they’re more articulate…than me.”

Thus, outer offense mirrors the inner offense of Bobby the Flyer. Internally, the impact of attaching to offense is to define the boundary of the self with the belief that nothing will ever change. This overarching negative belief keeps our spirit in check.

To free the spirit we must free it from offense. A preponderance of offensive words are being personally intended now. How can we then say that it isn’t personal, when it clearly is? Everything is designed to personally impact and it does; it hurts. Hurt is hurt, but it’s not offense.

Offense is an abstract, subjective interpretation. When Victor Frankl was denied his most basic of human rights, he chose not to be offended by his oppressors. Instead he chose to save his energy, to place his attention on positive thoughts and memories that could sustain him. And he survived where many died, depleted of their vital energy by the black hole of defeatism.

In the martial art of Aikido, much attention is placed on the imbalanced energy of the oncoming attacker and how to strategically receive it. No attention is wasted on being offended by one’s attacker. To be offended is to lose focus, which could be fatal. Martial artists and shamans alike know the value of losing any attachment to self-importance if one is to hone abilities and preserve energy.

Self-importance should not be confused with self-worthiness. Unseat Bobby the Flyer. With meditation or magical passes learn to silence the internal dialogue. Assert your basic worthiness to the self, but don’t get caught in needing others to validate it. That’s a sure ticket to the black hole of defeatism.

Ironically, the biggest petty tyrant of our times is daring us to not be offended by him; it may be the only way to actually defeat him! Beyond that, he offers us the exercise of truly learning to preserve our energy for the deeply challenging times now unfolding upon this planet.

May we all have compassion for all beings.

Without offense,


Soulbyte for Tuesday April 23, 2019

Prepare yourself physically, mentally, and spiritually to receive the change you so desire in your life. If you do nothing, nothing will happen. If you remain stagnant, stagnant you will be. But if you prepare for change, anticipate change, are open to change in body, mind, and spirit and actually take changing actions then you will be ready to receive change when it arrives. A smile on your face, a positive mental attitude, and an open heart will produce the first spark, but it’s your own intent that will produce the greatest change. If you don’t take care of yourself no one else will. You are your own responsibility. Take life to a new level and take control of yourself. It may be just the next step you need to move along toward the change you so desire. Take charge in a new way, knowing that yes, you deserve it, but also that you are your own change maker. It’s all in your hands.

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

A Message for Humanity From Jeanne: Make a New Choice Today

Dare to bloom…
– Photo by Jan Ketchel

In our audio message today we are advised to make some new and perhaps even daring choices to get unstuck. Getting stuck is common, we all do it, but getting unstuck can be a real challenge. Challenging ourselves to move in a new direction is part of making the human journey exciting and adventurous. Wishing you all the best in getting unstuck!

And Happy Earth Day!

Soulbyte for Monday April 22, 2019

Let Mother Earth be your guide in the interconnected world of all living beings, in energy seen and unseen, for the earth all around you holds the secrets to what was, what is, and what will be. Stay connected to Mother Nature. Breathe her air, drink her waters, lie upon her meadows and like all her creatures accept her gifts. Be part of what she offers without taking too much, without destroying but preserving what is. Leave her better than you found her. Let her show you how to be wisely interconnected to all other beings, intentionally participating in her greater plan for peace and contentment upon her vast and beautiful holdings. With loving kindness take care of all she provides. Happy Earth Day!

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Friday April 19, 2019

Make a firm decision today that will move you one step further along on your journey of change and transformation. For isn’t that what life is really all about, change and transformation? Without judgment, without regret, turn in a new direction and embrace a new opportunity. Put one foot in front of the other and walk in a new direction. It’s that simple. You have already seen the light. You already know what you need to know. You just have to take the next step. There’s no better moment than now. It’s a new day after all, and that alone offers a fresh start.

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Chuck Ketchel, LCSWR