Don’t give up. Change takes time. Its incremental creep may at times seem nonexistent, but something got started the moment a decision was made; something got implanted that won’t go away. Like a sharp needle it pokes and reminds, sticks and jabs at the most important times and will not be forgotten. There comes a time when acquiescence is the only strategy, and acquiescence to change means giving up the old ways and finally letting change have its way. In that moment change will finally take its rightful place, as inevitable, as so right, and as the one and only answer. Let change itself show you the way. You know what that means. You just have to accept its inevitability and throw yourself wholeheartedly into its arms. Once you do that you will never look back. Like a warrior you will travel forward with only unbending intent prodding you onward.
Decisions are the responsibility of the ego. Guidance may come from infinity or by simply contemplating the Tao of now, but ego, through the exercise of consciousness, must arrive at a decision and plan of action.
The ego is in charge of time-space navigation. The higher self, a higher power, and spirit guides, all of whom reside in infinity, can offer wisdom and the broadest possible perspective, but it falls upon the ego self to decide the next right action in daily life.
What is a right decision? The simple answer is, one that aligns with the true needs of the whole self. The ego might reason through a dilemma and come to a logical conclusion as to what must be done. This might be the right decision, but the ego would do well to also feel through a decision: does this feel right in the same way that it logically adds up? If it does, it’s a go! But if feeling and thinking don’t align, further deliberation is required.
Often times the ego is more centered in the solar plexus chakra, the seat of personal power. From that vantage point the ego gets the perspective of utilizing its power for its own needs and gain. This perspective is indeed important. We see it at the center of world decisions at present, but it is limited to its own survival and gain and tends to dismiss the larger interdependent reality beyond itself.
The heart center chakra has a greater connection to interdependent reality and often delivers its guidance in a sensation or calmness that follows a thought, thereby offering its support to the perspective that thought presents. The ego does well to check in with the solar plexus as well as the heart to be sure it is considering the needs of both self and the greater interconnected reality.
It is amazing how much strength can be mustered to plow forward with a narrowly based decision. The ego can exercise its will to force the world to respond. Often however, if the ego is not inclusive of the greater interconnected reality, the world responds with negative feedback in the form of some kind of resistance to the ego’s push. This is where we find ourselves trying to push the river.
There is a right decision to be made and the ego must actually discover it. Discovering a decision is actually more appropriate than making a decision. The paradox here is that the ego must decide what is right, but in actuality the process is one of ultimately acquiescing to what is right. Only a mature ego is capable of surrendering its willfulness and aligning itself with what is truly right.
The process of ego maturation is the “Groundhog Day” of life on this planet. As we work with and bring our ego into mature alignment with spirit consciousness, we discover that all our decisions are right decisions because they teach us the consequences of making decisions based on ego alone. We learn from our mistakes. Thus, all decisions accrue value, as eventually we discover that they have all been part of a process leading to change.
Rather than pushing the river we learn the art of river-walking: walking with consciousness within the true flow of interconnected energy.
What recourse do you have but to go with the flow of your life? Life is taking you in a certain direction. Why fight it? Why protest? You will only make matters worse for yourself, struggling against that which you cannot change. Let go of your old ideas and embrace the new ones being presented to you. But most of all go with the flow. You’ll be happy you did!
Acquiesce to life. Let go of that which no longer serves you so that you may be available to accept the gifts that await you. Open your arms and your heart so that every moment of every day may be filled with the nurturing goodness that life naturally presents. Become available.