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Soulbyte for Monday September 16, 2019

Keep your intent strong. Mark your own words and abide by them. Hold yourself accountable, for only you are responsible for yourself, your decisions, and how far you go with your intentions. If you want something, you are perfectly capable of making it happen, step by step, holding your intent strong and not wavering from your path. With your intentions firmly stated, your will strong, and your focus forward, you will not fail. Intent!

Sending you love,

The Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Wednesday August 14, 2019

Learn self-regulation, the art of inner self-control, so that no matter where you are, who you are with, or what disturbs you, you may take over that which seeks to overwhelm you, whether from within or without. Self-regulation involves making choices that are productive, beneficial, and energy wise. Self-regulation means taking responsibility for the self, in all ways. It means knowing what you need and what you don’t need, what is good for you and what is not, but most of all, it means paying attention to what your physical body tells you. For your physical body, where you spend your life, is like a barometer. It feels pressure, and you can detect it and learn to regulate it. Learn the art of self-regulation first by getting to know your body, the home of your Soul. This may first entail changing some long held beliefs about yourself and learning something new about yourself that you never imagined. Self-regulation is enhanced by learning calming exercises. Learn to breathe deeply. Learn what it means to be in balance in your body. Learn that, yes, you do have the ability to control what is happening inside you, whether generated from within or without. For you are indeed master of your own body.

Sending you love,

The Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Thursday May 30, 2019

What have you been thinking about yourself? That you aren’t enough? That you aren’t doing things right? That you are this or that? Maybe your thoughts aren’t right. Maybe you are really just fine. Old negative thoughts have a way of sticking around, telling you the same things over and over again until you believe them, but maybe they were never right to begin with. Imagine your mind freed of its usual thoughts. Who would you be without them? If you stopped telling yourself the things you always tell yourself you’d probably be just fine, near perfect just as you are. Change your thoughts, change your life. It really could be that simple!

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Soulbyte for Thursday May 23, 2019

Let yourself be calm and easy through all the trials and turmoils of life, for stress is your mortal enemy. Find a way to calm your body and your mind, to gain control over anxiety and panic, pain and fear, worry and intrusive thoughts. Find a balance within and without that will serve to keep you happy and healthy in mind, body, and spirit throughout your days. There are so many options available; search for one that suits you well and practice it always. Make it work for you so that your life may be calm and flowing and one of contentment and joy. Make getting your inner state into calm balance your priority. The solution lies in your own hands. You have the power to accomplish anything. Why not begin with yourself and use your personal power for your own good for a change? Do so, and all will be well for a long time to come.

-From the Soul Sisters, Jan & Jeanne

Chuck’s Place: Time for Self-Regulation

Oppose the dominant energy of now… get heart centered and calm…
– Photo by Jan Ketchel

Unchecked impulse is the dominant energy of now. There are no signs of it letting up. None are immune from the impact of this energetic wave. Now is the time to turn inward and self-regulate.

It all boils down to intent. Intent manifests the word. Intent is the spirit of Yang (masculine energy) that attracts the Yin (feminine energy) of matter. When we tell the body to relax, it listens and releases according to instruction. But there are challenges.

Blocking beliefs are habitual instructions well-established in the body. If the entrenched belief is that “I am nervous,” the body will favor this established command and remain tense. This is understandable. A hardwired command may assert itself even in the face of a new order, “the body relaxes.” We must be patient and persevering when establishing new rules.

Perhaps the most challenging blocking belief is that “I don’t have the power to consciously alter things in my body.” Let this be the null hypothesis, that is, “my mind cannot change my body.” Let the hypothesis be: “anything is possible.” Next, set up the experiment.

Two times each day, calm the body with some form of progressive relaxation that focuses attention on all parts of the body, simultaneously giving the verbal message to relax. For example, notice the state of tension in your forehead, or shoulders and neck, and instruct the body to release the tension. Cover all sections of the body, head to toe.

Next, in a state of deeper calm, post-relaxation, tell the body, several times, the issue you expect it to address. A child who struggles with enuresis (bedwetting) might simply state: “body, wake me up when it’s time to pee.”  An adult with digestion issues might instruct the body to “comfortably digest the food you receive.” The conscious mind merely states its intent, the body will know what to do.

Remain persevering in this regimen for a month. Attach no expectations to the outcome. Keep the mind passive. Expectations have been proven, at the subatomic level, to bias matter. Better to remain scientific and simply see what happens. Do, however, calmly follow the daily protocol and note whatever you notice each day. The key here is patience and calm perseverance.

All issues in our lives register in our bodies as stress, which means an activation of our autonomic nervous system to fight, freeze, or flee to protect us. This hardwired reaction can be overridden with direct communication to the body that assures it that it is safe and okay to return to calm. Prove it with your personal experiment.

Too often, we insist that we must get to the root of the problem before we can get calm. The problem is, if we are activated, we will be unable to perform the mental operations needed to think clearly. The body funds survival over mental processing. The thinking brain is largely dormant, hence, ineffectual when we are triggered.

Once we become calm, we gain the clarity and brain power to understand the root of the trigger. As we process the trigger, we can continually return to calm by reminding the body to release its stress.

Outer stress resulting  from nature’s changes or political gamesmanship are surely on the rise. The opportunity here is to turn inward and access one’s personal intent to master outer challenge. All power lies within. Take up the challenge to hone your personal link to intent. Do the experiment. Let the outcome be your own proof.

Self-regulating,

Chuck