Accessing the spiritual self and staying connected to it is far easier than you think. Once found it is not forgotten and can be found again, even after long absences. It’s the physical self that presents problems. It’s the physical self that needs work and constant attention. It’s the physical self that must work so hard to change. It’s the physical self that requires focus and careful prodding every day if change is to occur. Complacency comes easily, as does reaching for the familiar comforts, the habits of a lifetime. Breaking with the ingrained traditions of the physical self takes the strength and courage of a mighty warrior. Have no doubt that you are such a warrior. Call upon your mighty warrior self as you take your journey of change, as you slay the old habits, and as you forge a new path. You are certainly capable, and the goal is certainly worth the effort—the evolution of a new you! Don’t stop now!
Had a dream the other night, where Jan and I were caring for two young children, a girl and a boy, who had never been cared for by anyone but their parents. Try as I might to do everything right, I’d flushed a toilet in one bathroom, which disrupted the water pressure in another bathroom where the little girl tried to flush. Flushing didn’t work for her and she became traumatized.
We were all once children. Our bodies, and some parts of our psyches, became adult. But parts of us are still the innocent, naive, shy, frightened, excited children we once more fully were. Perhaps those parts never grow up and transform. Perhaps the adults we become must assume childcare for our inner family. Perhaps that’s what it means to become a responsible adult. Perhaps that’s what wholeness and integration really mean.
Of course, this does not mean that adults should be bound to childish entitlements. Needs must be appropriately met, but neediness or demandingness are not to be catered too.
Children, inner and outer, may bear the wounds of trauma and unmet needs, which require adult intervention to provide necessary healing. However, adults must be careful not to become codependent to victimized parts. The horror of trauma is not healed through reparation or compensation.
The healing of trauma requires adult support as the traumatized child regains equilibrium, as it fully experiences and knows the facts of its personal history. Acceptance of the truth frees the child of the trauma and allows it to blossom. Catering to the dysregulated emotions of trauma only further entrenches one in victimhood.
Adult relationships must contend with child parts. Every adult has inner child parts that projectively feel entitled to attention from ‘parent’ partners or others in life. We may look physically like full-fledged adults, but inwardly we are a composite of many developmental stages.
The challenge is to individually assume parental responsibility for our own inner family. The expectations we place on partners or others frequently originate from our own child parts. Maturity is willingness to acknowledge and assume responsibility for what is ours and not expect another to care for it.
Nonetheless, with consciousness we might agree to be partners to our partner’s healing journey. To hug the wounded child part of another might be a helpful healing support, if voluntarily offered. However, to insist on a partner or another person taking care of a wounded part, or insistently feel entitled to care, entrenches and empowers victimhood. Healing cannot proceed under such conditions.
Ultimately, needed childcare must be provided by the adult self, who becomes the true parent to all the parts of the personality. Parents and partners provide the matrix that activates the issues of the child, but only the adult self can truly care for, heal, and lead the whole self, with all its component parts, to fulfillment.
A golden opportunity awaits you on your path of heart… – Photo by Jan Ketchel
In today’s audio channeling, the instruction is to, “…remain upon your path of heart, no matter what comes to thwart you.”
A path of heart is a path of least resistance, because if your heart is happy so is the rest of you. Step out in a new way today, upon your path of heart!
Keep the environment sacred… – Photo by Jan Ketchel
In our audio channeling this week we are advised to get more serious about tending to the world we live in, despite our own personal challenges. It’s time to take care of the whole.
Don’t forget to give some personal energy to the environment you live in. Keep it sacred.
A new day has arrived! Challenge yourself to make a change that is beneficial and positive. Adopt a new attitude, change a habit, protest something, begin something, resolve something, relieve yourself of something you’ve long upheld but no longer see the value of. You are responsible for yourself and only you can change yourself or give yourself new life. Today’s a good day to start off on a new journey, for every day offers the opportunity for new life. Why not let today be your day to begin anew? Seize the day!
