Look to your heart for answers. Ask it, “How should I respond, act, be in this situation? What is right?” Use your heart as your gauge, your guide, your guru, your shaman. It will not fail you, for the heart knows what is right. Find your way by its sensible and penetrating light. Trust your own heart.
When in doubt or distress get calm, sit quietly, and ask for guidance. Often guidance will come clearly and with sharp insight and yet at other times it comes slowly and one must plod along until what is right is revealed. What is truly right comes from the heart not the head, and so it is the heart that must be relied upon in times of doubt and distress. Turn to your own heart and let it guide you with its intelligence, its insight, and its compassion, and without a doubt it will, for that is what a heart does—it knows and it speaks the truth!
Guidance comes in many ways, often in the most unexpected manner. Are you missing it? Are you misconstruing or misinterpreting it, thinking you are not worthy of being helped? Look again. Perhaps the very thing you dismissed was just what you needed. Perhaps your guidance came repeatedly and you missed it because it did not come as you wanted, yet it came in so many other ways that you refused. Remember, guidance comes when you are ready to receive. So get ready to receive and receive what you get with a humble and open heart.
Beings on the other side are trying to get our attention all the time. Jeanne has told us this numerous times and Chuck recently read me a passage from Robert Monroe’s Far Journeys insinuating the same thing.
“What if a fly pestering us is just another being trying to get our attention?” Chuck wondered.
That same day, as I took an early morning walk, a fly appeared. My earlier conversation with Chuck immediately came to mind. Was this a being attempting contact? The fly pestered me, buzzing in my face.
“Okay,” I said to the fly. “What are you trying to tell me?” It bumped repeatedly into my forehead, right at the level of the third eye. “Stay connected to my psychic self, to my intuitive perceptions? Okay, I will!” And with that the fly buzzed off and I was left in peace.
Later that morning, I struggled with having to do a chore that I felt obligated to do, mostly out of guilt. Was it right to do, or was it just my guilt driving me to do it? I waited. Something didn’t feel right. A part of me implied that waiting was the right action. Every time I thought about this chore I paused; I waited.
After a while, I flipped a coin. Was I being avoidant or should I just do the chore? The coin said no, don’t do it. Should I do it later in the day? I asked the coin. No, don’t do it later, the coin answered. Should I do it at noon? I finally asked. No, the coin said. It seemed that no matter what I asked the answer was going to be no.
I am aware that there is a part of me that knows things that my conscious self does not know. This part doesn’t act hastily. I’ve learned to pay attention though, because it has proven to be right on so many occasions. The fly that had buzzed in my face earlier in the day was reminding me of this part of myself, the psychic self, a part that we all have. It’s just waiting for us to discover it, just as the passage we were reading in Monroe’s book suggested that other beings are trying to get our attention too.
I resolved to pay attention to the message from the fly, to my psychic self, and the coin. I didn’t act. I just waited. In a little while, the reason for waiting came. I didn’t have to do the chore because someone else, who really should have done it, phoned to let me know it would be done.
Had I done it out of guilt I would have pandered to an old part of myself. Instead I sat in the uncomfortable tension of waiting and faced my reasons for feeling guilty. In the end, I discovered that had I acted impulsively, just doing what I normally do out of guilt, I would have been guilty of an old behavior! Instead, I felt so relieved that I didn’t, that I paid attention to the fly, to the coin and to what my psyche was telling me. In the end, by waiting I experienced what the fly seemed to be insinuating, guidance IS available if you are open to the experience of it.
In the end, I learned two things: to listen to my psychic self and that guilt is no guide!