Stagnation is a normal part of any journey. It’s not unusual to get bogged down at some point, to experience inertia, to flounder and not know where to go next. In such times it is best to accept the time of stagnation as a necessary part of the journey, and to sit with it and wait for clarity to return. Without clarity there is no use in proceeding. Just wait. In the stillness of waiting clarity will eventually emerge. Once clarity returns the journey’s direction will also be clear.
It’s not easy to change, to go through a process of real and lasting change. Mostly change occurs within and that can indeed be a slow and meticulous journey. Too much expression outwardly and the process may stagnate rather than accelerate, for release of the tension that creates the foundation for change to happen leaves one feeling empty and unfulfilled. It is in the tension itself that one finds the stimulus and the potential that fuels and gives change its meaning. Bearing the tension is thus a beneficial process. Change is happening all the time, even during those times when you feel it the least. Stay contained and let the process take its natural course. Each day something new will reveal that you are indeed on the right path.
A new day brings new challenges, new beauties to enjoy, new meaning and new purpose. Look at each new day as the new opportunity it is, with bright possibilities for change, advancement, creativity and more. Let your feet be grounded today in the here and now so that you do not miss one new experience, sensation or idea that crosses your path. Greet the day as the new life it truly is.
If you leave the door open who knows what might get in. The choice becomes whether it is better to keep the door closed and deal with what is or keep the door open and deal with what might come. Both choices present their challenges. Both choices present their opportunities. But is one choice better than the other? Some say it’s better to keep the door closed, others that it’s better to keep the door open. Are there ulterior motives to keeping the door open? Are there fears that keep the door closed? One way or another, the time comes in every life when the decision has to be made, open or closed?
The greatest challenge of all, in this life of physical form and beyond, is accepting the truth. For one thing, truth is relative.
In childhood we believe we are responsible for everything. Mature adulthood allows us to accept the separate existence of others, including their contributions toward our difficulties.
Wisdom, the next level of truth, takes us full circle. Reflecting objectively upon life, from the pinnacle of spiritual acuity, we see ourselves in everyone. From this perspective our oneness is restored.
Our evolutionary journey requires that we traverse successfully these developmental stages of truth.
The Buddhists suggest that we reincarnate into bardos, into dreams of our own construction, until we are at peace with the full truth of the lives we have lived, which then enables us to be open to life beyond them. This is the true achievement of detachment—the freedom to move into new life, fully resolved from dilemmas of previous lives lived.
Frequently, loyalty to unresolved issues results in counter-suggestions to the subconscious mind around changes we intend to make in our lives. For example, if one fundamentally maintains the belief that they are unworthy, a suggestion for prosperity may be cancelled by this blocking belief of unworthiness.
In this case, the subconscious may generate incidents to reinforce one’s loyalty to the felt undeservedness. Detaching from this belief will require recapitulation of formative experiences that reinforced this belief. This may expose distortions that were formerly needed to protect a significant other, or a part of the self.
This recapitulation may also lift the veil of narcissism shrouding the belief that dates to the primary narcissism period of childhood. From this view, one is able to assign responsibility for events where they should be truthfully assigned, unseating younger interpretations of reality. From this perspective one is able to accept the fuller truth of self and other.
Ultimately, one might reach a perspective that once again assigns one full responsibility for the life one is in. This might include realizing one’s decision to enter life in the time period, and family constellation, one was born into, as one’s contribution toward one’s greater soul’s journey of infinite growth and awareness.
This does not absolve a perpetrator from responsibility for their behavior. However, it might explain the choice of a victim-experience as part of one’s spiritual growth.
Accepting the truth also requires that we face the ulterior motives within the self. From a holographic perspective we are comprised of the same everything as everyone else. If we attempt to solve the polarities that live within the self via projection onto others, we lose the thread of our fuller inner truth.
Fuller acceptance of our shadow self, with all of its desires, manipulations, cruelty and greed, allows us to be in full truth with ourselves. Acceptance requires that we live our wholeness as responsibly as possible.
Every day we are offered countless opportunities to be in truth with ourselves. We just need think about the world and our relationship with others; what truths are we being asked to face each day, in each moment, as we live out our lives.
From a place of higher truth, we are quite likely to manifest the kinds of experiences that will bring us fulfillment, as we eliminate negative counter-suggestions from an unknown shadow self. And then we can fully own our whole, integrated and wise self.
