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Chuck’s Place: Simple Guidance For Now From A Personal Experience

Emanations from the Mount…
-Artwork © 2026 Jan Ketchel

I had the great good fortune to attend a heart centered retreat this past weekend at the Monroe Institute’s Robert’s Mountain Retreat, located on a mountaintop, in the former home of Robert Monroe.

The Monroe Institute employs the use of sound technology to facilitate participants reaching brainwave states that open them to experiences of non-ordinary reality, where they may gain clarity, guidance and connection, as well as an ability to journey safely in transpersonal levels of being, beyond the physical body.

Participants are sequestered much of the time in private units, where light is blacked out and they are freed to comfortably lie on their beds, listening through headphones while they take in sounds of different frequencies, often combined with music and verbal guidance and suggestions.

In between exercises, participants gather as a greater group where people may share their experiences. I liken this group component to a shared lucid dream and am amazed to see people’s individual experiences truly become components of a greater separate reality.

To support the sanctity of both individual and group experiences, outside contact is discouraged during programs. However, the nature of my work, as a member of a helping profession, does require that I occasionally open to the outside world during  a program.

Here is guidance I personally received this weekend:

Listen to your dreams: In a dream on the first night of the program, I  found myself, at night, on the shore, near a tenement complex of the Bronx, in New York City. I was interacting with a very elderly woman, who lived in a cottage by the water. She shared intimate information with me. Later, when others came, I freely shared her stories. She, in turn, acted as if she were in deep dementia and had never had a conversation with me at all, casting a huge shadow over the validity of what I said.

I awoke from this dream on Saturday morning to the news of the attacks on Iran. A pervasive sadness overtook me and I was moved to tears. It’s not so much that I was surprised but that I was struck with the deep knowing that the inevitable was unfolding.

I encountered our group facilitator early that morning and shared the news of this outside energy. She suggested holding that energy within and that our process during our program on the mountain might be helpful to the greater world. Her guidance touched, for me, on two principals: containment and the holographic universe.

Containment: In retrospect, my dream had already highlighted the necessity of not sharing outside information at this stage. Of what value would it be to excite the energy of others with the outside information I had received? I was already infected with the impact of knowing and the consequence of deep sadness. What was necessary was a genuine transformation that required a sealed container to achieve.

Water doesn’t boil if you keep lifting the lid. Cakes don’t rise if you keep opening the oven door. Chicks aren’t born if mother hen doesn’t stay put. This is alchemy. Seal the container, let the heat rise, let new life come forth.

Holographic Universe: Michael Talbot’s classic book explores this deeply. When you shine a light on the minutest part of a hologram the entire hologram appears. This metaphor speaks to the human condition: shine a light deep enough on any one of us and the whole of humanity—all of its parts—will be found. We, at a certain level, are all one. Therefore, change the self and that change becomes part of the whole.

Our group facilitator suggested just that: contain the energy, allow for a transformative process that will impact the whole.

Coexist: In the first exercise we did on Saturday morning, we were taken to different levels of consciousness. As I travelled, the intensity of my sadness magnified, until my consciousness was so far beyond my sleeping physical body that I reached a transcendent perspective and landed at peace. The sadness was present, but I achieved being at peace with being sad.

All that is must be loved: This guidance arrived immediately around a question of opening the heart. The heart can’t open if we maintain walls of hate. The heart can’t open if we dissociate. That which is kept separate won’t allow us to love our wholeness.

Love your neighbor as yourself: This goes beyond accepting your disowned projected shadow. This is loving exactly what is, without changing it, without giving it excuses; this is the only way to truly know it.

Sympathy: In one exercise, my consciousness noticed my heart racing, to the point of possible concern. However, I noticed that I was not a participant, that my heart was, of its own choosing, taking the ride of a frequency it had picked up on. I chose not to interfere.

My current mentor, P. P. Quimby, was a 19th-century healer who would sit with a patient and allow his body to feel the exact feeling his patient felt. He called this “being in sympathy”, or same feeling, with his patient. Having the feeling, he then knew the cause, or mental belief, that was made manifest in the physical complaint. If the patient could then take in the truth of their error the physical condition often disappeared.

As my consciousness relaxed with my heart’s sympathetic journey—I believe, with the current outside energy of the world—I came to peace. It is abundantly clear that many errors are manifesting current destruction, but I do know, at a deeper level, that we are in the cosmic season of Kali Yuga, the grand destruction that clears the way for new life, the rising of the Age of Aquarius. This deeper truth transforms the sadness into calm anticipation.

Anchor: In an exercise designed to shift one, on a dime, to heart-centered love and calm, the guidance came to me to use every disturbing thought as an immediate trigger to return to the calm of the heart. This paired association, or neural pathway, is deepened every time we make the shift, sometimes several times a minute!

As our weekend retreat ended, and the messages I received continue to resonate, I express deep gratitude to the Monroe Institute for preserving the core of Robert Monroe’s gifts for journeyers like myself, for his gifts still have relevance today. And I also express deep gratitude for the Monroe Institute’s continued evolving of those gifts, as they take their own journeys with Monroe Sound Science.

My personal and collective journey this past weekend greatly aided my internal process and enabled the simple guidance that I offer in this blog.

With Gratitude for all the gifts we are given,
Chuck

#701 Chuck’s Place: Love & Sex

Love is of spirit; sex is of body. Our deepest challenge as human beings is to reconcile our ethereal, eternal spirit —that which precedes and succeeds our current life— with our corporal, animal, instinctual, physical body —that which has a definite beginning and a definite end. Animal/Spirit, Soma/Psyche, Finite/Infinite; these are the oppositions we are forced to suffer if we are to achieve fulfillment and solve the true riddle of life on this plane. Of course, there are those who would argue, with rational stamina and certainty, to the contrary.

At a recent dinner party, in a somewhat instigative and provocative mood, I posed the question: “What do you think happens when you die?” I got a quick: “Nothing, lights out!” I turned to another: “Lights out!” With this, I just let it rest. My reason wasn’t up to the argument. Lights out is simply a deus ex machina that doesn’t do justice to the paradox of a life fully lived.

I begin with the following paradox: Why, so often, are so many people so sexually dissatisfied with the person they are most secure and compatible with—spiritually in tune with? I suggest that this fragmentation of our spirit and animal selves begins with our birth into family. The family is the matrix we are born into and which ultimately forms the foundation of what we strive for: love and fulfillment. However, the incest taboo creates an impenetrable barrier to the animal that we are: sexual feelings for family members are strictly verboten. The place where we begin our lives, hopefully in unconditional love and security, does not welcome our animal, sexual selves.

I already sense a growing anxiety in my reader at this point, even the mere mention of sex and family can be alarming, such is the power of the incest taboo. Let me assure all, I am a firm upholder of the value and necessity of the incest taboo. The incest taboo is universal, a part of human culture from time immemorial. Some suggest it to be the humanizing instinct, a powerful archetype governing the behavior of the human animal. My focus here is examining its impact on splitting the psyche, the bearer of love, from the body, the bearer of sexuality. This universal fragmentation is a necessary consequence of being human, a wound that haunts the individual in acceptance of his or her instinctual nature. The consequence for relationship is the challenge of bringing love and sex together in relation to one person.

I stress that I am writing about the incest taboo and not incest. I have spent much of my professional life helping clients traumatized by familial violations of this taboo. My purpose here is to point out the inevitable consequence of the taboo: the splitting of love and sex. The incest taboo demands that family, as our first and often deepest experience of love, completely disallow our animal, instinctive, sexual selves from attaching to the same object of our deepest love. This most primal experience of love, rejects, denies, and repels the animal, which must be repressed, ignored, sentenced to the darkness and reserved for some future expression elsewhere, beyond the family. The byproduct of this most necessary separation of sexuality from family is the experience that love and sex are incompatible. This is the indelible primal imprint that we all take forward into adult life.

This is the incest taboo wound, the archetypal fall that we all suffer. Once man stole consciousness, that is, spirit, he was thrown out of the paradisal garden of instinctual freedom. In life, we strive desperately to return to the garden but are saddled with the split between our spirit and our body. We cannot return to the garden as full human beings —psyche and soma— if we cannot merge love and sex in a relationship with one person. We are granted respites in the garden when we mysteriously fall in love. In this bewitching time of falling in love, we reenter the garden, fully united in spirit and body: paradox resolved, psyche and soma as one. Our animal selves are fully released as we unite with our lover in carnal and spiritual bliss.

Unfortunately, the spell of falling in love is time-limited and soon we must return to the barrenness of life outside the garden, as we discover mother, father, sister, brother, in the eyes and behaviors of our lover. Once our lover becomes too familiar, the incest taboo is stirred, with the necessary consequence of the lifting of romance, as we return to the primal dilemma of the incompatibility of love and sex. Sex becomes labored, uncomfortable, avoided, or routine; the animal wants out of this incestuous cage, perhaps through secret fantasy or secret affair. Perhaps bliss can be extended until the arrival of a child in a family. With the addition of child, lovers must contend with a new role in their own relationship. They are now parents as well as lovers, which triggers the prohibitions of the incest taboo in their own relationship and can severely impact a return to a loving sexual relationship.

It was Freud’s bleak view that the achievement we call Civilization, with all its Discontents, is the sublimated byproduct of the incest taboo. Essentially, for him, ego, or spirit, is the psychic humanizing factor that substitutes civilization for its forsaken instinctive, unrealized, incestuous desires.

Jung, from a more positive perspective, viewed the frustrated libido as the birth of the imagination, which offers a venue for the human animal to reconcile psyche and soma, love and sex, and achieve wholeness.

For the seers of ancient Mexico, the resolution of this dilemma never went beyond the body, as they do not recognize a separation of psyche and soma. As I quoted Carlos Castaneda, last week, from The Wheel of Time (p. 199): “All the faculties, possibilities, and accomplishments of shamanism, from the simplest to the most astounding, are in the human body itself.” The seers’ path is to discover the body as solid and as energy, one in the same. For those seers, achieving the fluidity to alternate between these two states —one finite, the other infinite— solves the riddle of life on this plane.

For those engaged in relationship as a path to wholeness, I encourage containment and openness. For a detailed description of this process I refer the reader to The Book of Us, in particular to chapter three, A Jamaican Retreat, Our Alchemical Oven, where Jeanne and I undertook such a journey in this world. By containment, I mean commitment to a process within a sealed relationship. Interestingly, as I was preparing this essay, I opened the latest Psychotherapy Networker magazine. The picture on the cover is of a wedding cake with a bride flanked by two grooms. The title article is called: The New Monogamy, can we have our cake and eat it too? I quote from the article:

Within the new notion of monogamy, each partner assumes that the other is, and will remain, the main attachment, but that outside attachments of one kind or another are allowed—as long as they don’t threaten the primary connection.” (July/August 2010 p. 23)

This direction in marriage essentially maintains the fragmentation of psyche and soma, as they remain unrealized and un-united in an individual’s relation to one other person. It’s simply another form of triangulation, where the tension of combining love and sex is dispersed, allowing for fragmentary visits to the garden in separate relationships.

With the container sealed there must be openness. By openness, I mean a gradual, but ultimately full revelation of all the truths of the self, including the deepest somatic fears and desires of the animal. This is the healing of the incest taboo wound, as we push beyond its taboos and allow for ultimate spiritual intimacy and animal sexuality to come together with our lover.

The riddle of psyche and soma, the core paradox and challenge of life on this plane can be resolved through many paths: a journey within the self, a journey of relationship, or a shamanic journey. The essential tools in all of these journeys to wholeness are containment of the opposing forces within the self and openness to all the truths of the self inherent in these forces.

If you wish to correspond, please feel free to post a comment below.

Until we meet again,
Chuck

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