Soulbyte for Sunday November 9, 2014

In understanding what it means to give and take you learn to move on. In acts of kindness and acts of deliberateness, in knowing when to give and when to take, you learn that to be natural and flowing you must be prepared to move on at times, and at other times you learn that it is time to sit still and be loving and giving. To know when it is time for either of these moves is to learn about life, to mature and fully own who you are, without attachment to your past and without doubt about who you truly are, to fully own the substance of your true self.

To fully own who you truly are is to mature into an independent human being, to take your life into your own hands and mold the self into the being you know you are capable of being, and who you really want to be. You are in charge of your own life. Take over and be your own mother and your own father; be complete in who you are, right now. And don’t forget to be tender, caring and loving of self and other. This is the best plan for maturity and progress, as you move forward without anger and regret. As within, so without.

Soulbyte for Saturday November 8, 2014

To be mindful is to be fully conscious of what you do in every moment. To be mindful is to be aware of all thoughts, decisions, and actions. To be mindful is to grasp the energy of life and use it to your advantage. Thoughts may intrude. Feelings may well up and hurt be experienced, ambivalence set in. Counter such intrusions with simple breathing.

Empty the mind and let calmness take over. Acquiesce to what is in the moment and let it carry you to the next moment. If you let the self know there is nothing to worry about the self will accept this premise. If you allow the self to be patient rather than impulsive, things will be revealed that you were missing. If you restrain from action and wait for the perfect moment your life will progress in alignment with nature.

The perfect moment will only arrive when you are ready, in a mindfully aware state of emptiness, readiness, and calmness. Prepare for this moment. Breathe and breathe and breathe. Empty the mind. Fill the heart. Wait.

Soulbyte for Friday November 7, 2014

[We are experiencing a computer malfunction so until that is repaired our postings will be limited to the daily Soulbytes. Hopefully by the middle of next week we will be back with our regular blogging schedule and Messages from Jeanne. In the meantime, here is today’s message of inspiration from infinity!]

Rote living offers little room for play and inspiration. Like a hamster running on a wheel, life becomes meaningless and boring. To run along a path of heart, however, changes everything.

Stepping off the wheel of discontent, confinement, and rigidity, one is offered the opportunity to experience something new. Some people decide to step off the wheel, others fall off, but eventually all must leave the wheel behind and accept a new adventure. Will you make the choice or have it made for you? In a simple decision to step off the wheel of routine and run along a path of heart instead, everything changes.

Soulbyte for Thursday November 6, 2014

As you continue your everyday journey pay attention to how you take care of yourself. Are you attentive to your body? Is your mind clear? Do you make concessions and excuses rather than concerted efforts to set limits? Do you exercise, sleep, and eat right?

Life in your world requires attention to the body as well as the spirit. Things easily go out of balance. Establish some rules for yourself that are healthy, restrictive only in good ways. Without denying the needs of the body take care of it even as you take care of your spirit. Protect it, love it, take it forward into new life with you, fully caring and attentive to it. Without your body in good condition your spirit will suffer.

Make beneficial adjustments each day that are nurturing and supportive of the magical journey you are on. Ask your spirit for help. It will not fail you, but how it answers will have to be understood as it may not speak in words.

Chuck’s Place: The Three Vexations

[Here is Chuck’s blog for this week. We are dealing with some computer issues and thus no pictures accompany this post. Look for a blog from Jan later in the week. In the meantime, here is some good stuff to ponder as you take your own deepening journey. And don’t forget to check in each morning for our daily Soulbytes!]

In his 1477 poem, the Ordinal of Alchemy, Thomas Norton, the English alchemist, warns any seeker of this Sacred Art of three major trials: haste, despair, and deception. These three devils are the gargoyles that all would-be adepts must pass by if they are to find the path to achieve the Opus, the Grail Cup.

In modern terms, seekers of individuation through the path of psychotherapy and recapitulation will meet these same vexations cast upon their conscious intent.

Norton states: “He who is in a hurry will complete his work neither in a month, nor yet in a year, and in this Art it will always be true that the man [or woman] who is in a hurry will never be without matter of complaint…” (Anatomy of the Psyche, Edinger, p. 5)

We enter psychotherapy because life circumstances have mobilized our ego intent to find resolution to the conflicts that thwart our fulfillment. Our mobilized ego is frustrated or in great pain and is highly pressured to achieve freedom from these constraints. These are the conditions that set the stage for haste. We want to move on quickly, move deeper into life. We do not want to suffer a moment longer.

The rationalistic psychologies of the modern world promise just such results with well-laid out plans and programs promising great success. Would that the problems that befront us were all of the world of reason! Unfortunately, to solve our deepest issues we must sink into the depths of nature, far beyond the purview of reason. And for this healing adventure the ego’s demand for results in a timely fashion will only be met with disappointment and complaint. To enter the depths of the psyche we enter a world outside our familiar space and time where we must acquiesce to the healing tides of nature.

“If the enemy does not prevail against you with hurry, he will assualt you with despondency, and will be constantly putting into your minds discouraging thoughts, how those who seek this Art are many, while they are few who find it, and how those who fail are often wiser…than yourself.” (Ibid., p. 5)

Deflation of the ego, diminished self-worth and self-esteem, negative thinking, doubt that things will ever get better—these are the many faces of despair that seek to derail the concerted effort needed to prevail through the long, arduous, and often physically painful and emotionally terrifying journey into the inferno of recapitulation. A willingness to keep the candle of intent lit within the self, even though one feels utterly alone and abandoned as one takes the journey into the abyss, is critical if one is to prevail through this trial of despair.

“The third enemy whom you must guard against is deceit, and this is perhaps more dangerous than the other two…” (Ibid., p. 5)

By deceit, I believe Norton is referring to the helpers who come to serve the journey. Many of these so called “helpers” are the characters of the shadow self, entities that offer insights or respites in the form of inflations and addictions in exchange for allowing them to act out or take possession of our lives as we traverse our journey.

There are many tricksters within the self promising treasures in exchange for habits that subtlely drain our energy and resolve as we struggle to keep our course set on our goal of wholeness. Many an oasis offered can be a tricky resting place, claiming decades of our lives while we wait to awaken from our slumbers in a poppy field of a needed break.

Know that the vexations of haste, despair, and deception are the guardians of all paths of heart. They cannot be avoided. Better to see them as worthy opponents that forge us into the Grail Cup that can fully contain our wholeness, the goal of the opus.

We are all taking the journey in one form or another,
Chuck

Chuck Ketchel, LCSWR