Soulbyte for Thursday August 14, 2014

In deep contemplation of the New Self know that you have already come far, through the darkness and into the light. Your direction certain, your warrior sword drawn, pointed inward and outward simultaneously and in balanced perspective, forge onward.

Introspection, contemplation, truth and honesty are your constant companions. Acknowledge them and bring them astride your steady steed as you make your way along your path of heart. Unwaveringly staying upon your path—and without turning back except to say, “Yes, I know” and “Yes, I remember” and “Yes, I release” and “Yes, I move on now fully healed”—your eyes will remain focused on the forward intent you have set for yourself and worked so hard for.

Now is the birthing stage. New life is at hand. Occupy it.

Soulbyte for Wednesday August 13, 2014

What does a warrior ultimately seek? What is a warrior’s sword used for? The answers: a warrior seeks the self; a warrior uses a sword to cut through all that comes to thwart progress. There is no other goal than to know the self in the deepest and fullest sense.

Time now to keep going, like a warrior to cut through time and space, to cut through the past and the present, to embrace the energy of all that lies within and take the self forward in a new direction. You have done the work to get here. Now is the time of continuation.

Do not stop or hesitate, but carry the self forward with the energy of change fueling your warrior spirit!

Chuck’s Place: Safety

One of the scary dogfighters in the sky... - Photo by Jan Ketchel
One of the scary dogfighters in the sky…
– Photo by Jan Ketchel

As we drove past the Rhinebeck Aerodrome in the midst of a dogfight in the sky, a golden retriever with leash dragging scurried toward our car. I stopped, opened the car door, and the dog immediately leaped in and planted itself on my lap.

I could feel the dog’s terror and need for safety. He was at home with us and would have moved forward in life from that moment, never leaving our safety, never looking back. We diligently went in search of it’s owner and eventually discovered his whereabouts. He was deeply engrossed in the planes in the sky, with no consideration of his dog’s terror of loud noises. The dog was so planted in our car, clinging for dear life, that I ultimately and sadly had to lift its frozen statue frame from the car to send it back on its journey. We watched as it was led away, slunk low to the ground, peering to the right and to the left, seeking safety once again as the bombs went off overhead.

Domesticated animals are ultimately dependent on their “owners” for their safety and survival. This is the contract they make in domesticated form. Though their instincts are fully available to protect them, their survival is largely delegated to their owner.

Humans, in contrast, are charged with taking adult responsibility for achieving safety for themselves in this life. Many humans reach adulthood unable to fully achieve individual internal security due to lapses in milestones of emotional maturity, caused by trauma or compromised parents. The legacy of these lapses is a physically mature but emotionally insecure adult who anxiously seeks relationship attachments outside the self to feel safe.

These kinds of relationships may feel powerfully necessary for survival and the threat of losing them generates states of anxiety and panic similar to that of the golden retriever that anxiously attached to us and the safety of our car. Relationships driven by such anxious attachment often start off with intense love feelings—finally feeling “home”—but generally degenerate into worry, panic, and fear of abandonment.

Relationships at this level are often frozen at the level of dependency, control, and fear, leaving little opportunity for adult companionship and relatedness. This is inherent in the relationship’s initial underlying intent: safety. Until safety can be found within the self, relationships will be controlled by an over-dependency on the other person’s behavior as the locus of control for inner safety.

We must become the parent to our inner panicking child. If we allow the child’s anxiety to control our decision making and actions, we are sure to engage in external parenting relationships as we allow the child in us to go in search of a secure person to latch onto, just like the dog that leapt into our car. Our adult self must be in charge of decision making and self care. If our child self is frightened it might be time to pick it up and go for a soothing walk alone rather than desperately seek inappropriate attention elsewhere.

Blossoming as one united being... - Photo by Chuck Ketchel
Blossoming as one united being…
– Photo by Chuck Ketchel

Eventually, the child will discover that the adult self is its one true parent, the one that can take charge of decisions for the whole personality, leading it to safety, play, and fulfillment. From this place, with the locus of control coming from a place of deep inner safety, relationships may be engaged in as adult partnerships, with everyone responsible for their own inner parenting.

Self care at the deepest level is the only adult ticket to true inner safety. Inner safety leads to outer blossoming and allows for flourishing in true adult relationship.

Embracing inner safety,
Chuck

Soulbyte for Tuesday August 12, 2014

Engage not the old energies, nor the frailties of the old self, but stay focused on your path of heart, even though that which is done will seek to pull you back.

This is a time of between worlds and your warrior’s sword will now come in handy. Use it wisely, not to injure or harm self or other but only to cut through that which encumbers so you can move on to that which you already have tasted and know as your destiny.

Life in the between worlds is murky with the old coming to show you its pleasures, but remember, those pleasures offer little real comfort, for they are but momentary delights. The real delight lies in the new world that you are creating for yourself.

Take up your sword and fight your way forward. This is the battle for freedom that all warriors must engage in, in the between worlds as well as in the inner and outer worlds. Fight on!

Message from Jeanne-Saleph: Get In Balance

Balance and alignment of mind, heart, emotion, spirit... - Photo by Chuck Ketchel
Balance and alignment of mind, heart, emotion, spirit…
– Photo by Chuck Ketchel
Here is today’s channeled message. We will be bringing you more channeled messages throughout the week as we are inspired and as we further explore our techniques of conversation with infinity. We all wish you the very best as you journey onward!

Chuck Ketchel, LCSWR