#68 The Big Baby

Dear Jeanne,
Do you have a message of guidance today for all of us who read your words?

Look now to the self for motivation. Treat the self not as a baby in arms, but as a full-fledged adult, for that is how you must navigate in that world, as mature and hearty adults, and this maturity of purpose and intent is also necessary in order to navigate on your spiritual journey as well. Have you come up against discord in your life? Have you suffered some seemingly irreparable harm? Have you begotten much strife as a result of your impatience and your foolhardy moves? Do you tend to wallow in your own dirty diapers? Do you seek to stay in babyhood when you should grow up? Well, you readers of my words, get over it!

Seek your own growth even as you seek growth in others. Parent yourself with my words on parenting. Take in everything I said in relationship to you, yourself, and your own situation. Do not sit upon your throne and look upon everyone else as not doing it right, but discover that even you, who sit supremely prepared for life, have issues of the self to address. All of you have issues of the inner child, the inner big baby, and the inner desires to give over control and decision making to another. You all need to grow up.

Take control of your own life, your own progress, your own spiritual journey, and become the adult, the knowing parent and the focused mature spirit ready to travel forward now. If you keep dragging your big baby around you will forever have to deal with dirty diapers and all the paraphernalia that babies need. And the bigger the baby, the more stuff you have to drag around with you. Come on; investigate what your big baby does to you on a daily basis. Find what your actions regarding this infant in the driver’s seat do to you. How are your decisions affected? How are your relationships affected? How are your waking hours affected?

To proceed in life from a place of maturity with the inner big baby well placed, well known, and well managed is to proceed in life with dignity, with personal knowing of the self as fully in control, and with the innate ability to quickly assess how to proceed correctly in life. Do not let your big baby rule, or you will have stunted growth in life.

My words on parenting issues must be utilized to address these issues of the inner child. No one is exempt from studying this aspect of themselves. I urge all of you to take time over the next few days to understand that all of you have this big baby aspect deep inside you. Discover how well you are parenting this baby. Discover if your methods are truly doing the job as it should be done. Find out if your baby is well taken care of and living in harmony with your adult knowing, or does it lash out at you all too often, begging and crying and desiring too much for any baby?

This is a new balance that must be achieved if you are to maintain true balance in life. I do not ever advocate total neglect or denial of this baby, for in this action would you deny a vital aspect of the self that must be acknowledged and accepted as part of life. That baby can lead you to discoveries about the self that may not ever emerge in any other fashion. These aspects of the psyche can remain hidden and smothered if the baby is not treated with respect and paid attention to.

Know your inner baby. Understand what it seeks to teach you. Find out why it continually presents you with the same problem over and over again? Why are you stuck on the issues you are stuck on? Because you are supposed to learn something from them, silly! Don’t take me in the wrong way with that word. I use it only with deep affection for all of you. But, I also know how frustrating life with the big baby in control can be. If the baby is screaming all day long for attention then perhaps it is letting you know, very loudly and clearly, that you are not doing something right. For if you were doing everything right the baby would be happy, contented, and calmly balanced.

Do you cradle your inner baby lovingly, knowingly cognizant of its abilities and its spirit awareness? Have you allowed it to guide you? Do you listen to what it is really saying to you when it cries out? Have you discovered that it usually means something quite different from what you anticipate? Until the baby learns to speak must there be close rapport and much togetherness to discover how the baby functions, for all babies are unique in their habits and their needs. It is up to the parent to learn how their own baby speaks, without words, but with sounds nonetheless.

So, in order to continue in your progress as a good parent, both to those outside of you and to this inner baby, must you discover who your own inner baby really is. You must find it inside you and learn everything there is to learn about it. Become familiar with it. Even if you do not acknowledge that you have one, begin to see how it will let you know it exists. Because, believe me, it will!

If you are going to proceed in your life, following your resonance, enjoying proper alignment, and utilizing the powerful energy upon that earth must you fully embrace and understand who you are, how you function, and how all aspects of your self also function. To be fully aware, alert and ready to take on life must you acknowledge the big baby inside and learn from it, but also teach it to regard your maturity as correct and right for the journey you must take together. Control of your big baby does not mean sticking a pacifier in its mouth. It means fully knowing it, and accepting your life as a contract with this aspect of yourself. Your learning and growing self needs and desires knowledge of this agreement in order to grow, and develop, and live life to the fullest.

Take care of those inner babies. Love and cherish them for the problems they create and for the lessons they teach. Bind yourself fully to them, committed to a lifetime of love and self-understanding in order to grow into a complete human being, and a well balanced and complete spirit being as well.

A Note on Message #67

A note of interpretation from Jan: by children, Jeanne is referring not only to our own children, but anyone else we have in our lives who we are attached to in a similar type of parenting relationship. It could be our own parents, spouses, partners, friends, or anyone who we worry about or fear for, including our own inner child.

#67 Free ALL the Children

Dear Jeanne,
Do you have a message of guidance for us today?

Take the focus off the worrisome self now and turn your attention to the evolving self. Attention upon worries is a waste of energy, for worries are but preying upon you, eating up your available reserves, tapping in to the very source of who you are, stealing from you blatantly in open daylight. Do you not see this? As attention is given to worries so is your energy deemed available, and it is eagerly lapped up, as if wild beasts had come to your door and discovered a crack of entry.

Your worries do not solve problems, not does the focus on your worries solve problems. The only thing that solves problems is time and evolutionary choice. Seek today to disengage from worry; this is your challenge.

Step back a moment from your reality, and take a new look. Where would you like to focus your energy? On your calm, and your balance, as you know you should? Well, do that, do that now. Find your center, breathe in to it, and get yourself into a place of calm relaxation. This will allow you to reassert and revisualize your life. Take a few minutes to enact this calm in yourself and them come back to my words, ready to accept what I say.

Okay now. The proper energetic solution to worry is to disengage from it. Easier said than done, you say? Yes, I know that, but, and this is a big but, you must learn how to do this, and all it takes is practice, practice, practice. And in the practice of disengagement do you actually get to experience how life will play out of its own accord, and your worry has no part in that! Worry is merely a mind-eater, a mind-feeder, and draws your energy/attention from focus on what you should actually be doing with your energy. And you all know that I fully endorse spending your energy in meaningful and solitary spirit endeavors that will benefit you and all who are in your company.

Is your worry placed upon children? These creatures we produce are our biggest worry subjects, and that fact I accept. For in my own lifetime, as Jeanne Marie Ketchel, did I have just this worrisome focus, even though I knew better, but to detach from children is not only our biggest challenge in life, but also our biggest coup! Seek now this coup in your own life.

So, as I requested, now that you are calmer, step back from your life, your reality, and your children, your child, and even your inner child, if this is the one giving you problems. Take a good look, first at this child that is eating up your attention. Yes, I know you love and care deeply about this child. I know you wish this child a happy, safe, and fulfilling life, and I know your concerns for this child are real, and pertinent, and perhaps even necessary above all. But, please recall what I have many times said: ALL, even this child you now fear for, are on an independent journey, which all must undertake and grow with, a journey that will undoubtedly be full of challenges, and full of conflict, confrontations, and perhaps even danger. But, you, as a worthy parent, must allow this child to venture out into the world, unburdened of your worry and your fear, or you will tie it too deeply to you and your own fears. This will only damage it in its progress to maturity and evolutionary discovery of itself as a truly separate spirit on its own journey, which really has little to do with your own, except that you were the vehicle for its entry into this life.

Look at this child in a new fashion now. See yourself as its path of entry into this realm, and as its earliest influence. Have you filled it with love and knowledge? Guided it to understand life, taught it all that you know? Can you not now launch that child in to its own world now, different, oh so very different, from your own? But, do you not see how good this is? How fortunate that it is not living your life, but its own? Give your child, your boy or girl child, or your inner child, or your child to be, the gift of life, as you were never given it. Give it the knowledge now of its own spirit journey, its own responsibility for living its life fully, with maturity, with care of itself and others, constantly aware that it has a mission in this life, and it is up to it to find out what that is.

As parents we are but facilitators along the path, nudges, meant to push our fledglings out of the nest to discover their wings and launch themselves, with our energetic push, out into the world to discover it for themselves. Fill them early with all that you know that is true and right, and treat them always as true spirit beings even as you wish to be treated, for they retain what you teach and what you show, and they will have this always packed inside them. Show them love, and caring, and respect, and a mature knowledge of energetic responsibility for all who come into contact with your energy and theirs.

Keep them clear of your own fears. For the worst thing a parent can do is burden a child with old fears that have nothing to do with that child. Leave that child pristine in this sense, so that it may understand that fear and worry passed down from generation to generation are blocks along the evolutionary path. But, do teach, of course, to use awareness of fear and worry as instinctual signs to go cautiously forward and read the signs in life that seek to guide.

Instinct and knowing, paying attention to the deepest inner knowledge are skills that a new generation must begin now to learn and to utilize. For the entire world is changing and fears of old do not apply any longer. But new focus and new awareness must be placed on individual spirit knowing and respect for all as spirit entities. Only in this manner can the world change. With respect for all as spirit energy first, is there the possibility to change the world.

Even as that great country of America does barrel forward uncontrollably, seeking further growth, further consumption, and further wealth, so must this new generation turn it back into itself and seek to regain the true meaning of the independent spirit that once grounded it and offered refuge to adventurers and seekers of growth. For that is the grounding of that country, a new world for spirit energy to explore and grow in, getting it right finally, so that the entire world could change as a result of true evolutionary grounding.

That country has come far from its original intent, even as the vast majority of souls have come far from spirit intent, forgetting that their journey upon that earth is not one of human needs, but one of spirit needs. So, to get back to the issues of children, of all children, inside and outside us, what is it they truly need? Love and guidance; training in instinct and spirit knowing; and the clear insight that they are on their own evolutionary journey; that we, as parents, are meant to launch them and allow them to be free agents in the world, detached from us and the beginning we gave them, yet fully capable of acknowledging that we each did the best we could, at the time, for them.

Do not, as parents, hold yourselves accountable for their lives. Your job is to do what you can with your fullest abilities as you too progress [evolve]. There are many parents who do not choose to progress [evolve] and, sad as this may be, so do they offer their children the gift of great early challenge in order to guide them to knowledge of their own journey, perhaps more quickly, giving them internal knowing of spirit at an early age.

Our jobs as human beings is not out in the workforce, but within, where we seek to remember why we are there, and understand the reasons for our lives, the tracks they have taken, and reasons for what we now know. Give the children the knowledge that you now learn about life, about energy, about journeys, and remind them to seek always their own evolutionary spirit, and seek to discover why they are there, what does their life mean for them alone, what are they meant to do with it, and where are they truly meant to go.

Take away from them the burden of your worries, and your fears. Tell them that the choices they make in life must be for them and their life, not ever for you and your life. Give them the freedom of life by taking off them the burdens that you carry, and send them off into their own energetic existence free, really free, of your expectations and your desires. In order for the world to change must the children of the world, and I mean this in every context of the word “children,” be free to explore their own meaning for life upon that earth, equipped with knowledge of spirit, of past lives, and future lives, and of future energetic existence. Give them the BIG PICTURE of life and you give them the biggest gift of all.

Free them the way your spirit wishes to be free. And in this unburdening of them, taking back your worries, and your fears, do you offer yourself the example of how to proceed in your own life. Now take that knowledge with you into your calm, and know fully that life itself desires this freedom, this detachment, this unburdening, in order to fully progress on its spiritual journey. Untie the ties that bind, all of them, whether they be fear, worry, sorrow, desperation, or any issue that plagues you, and release, not only your own spirit energy, but offer this freedom to everyone else who comes in contact with you. Show by your example that life is not only a wonderful adventure and a challenge that must be fully encountered and lived, but also that life is an exquisite spiritual journey that also must be fully encountered and lived on that spiritual level. Send out children who are calm and balanced and fully knowing that they are spirit energy first and foremost, and you have done your part to change the world.

So, feel good about that! Our journeys in life upon that earth must be put into these contexts that I have described and laid out, or we will not progress beyond that world, and as good as it may sometimes get, it is but a stepping stone to true reality of spirit and energy that allows us to see more than meets the earthly eye. The eyes you now see with are missing a lot. Open your eyes to new possibilities and tell your children to keep their own eyes wide open, trusting all that comes their way as meaningful and guiding signs that they are being offered knowledge of truth and reality meant for them on their journey.

Observe how they choose to live, but do not live their lives. Observe how they choose to utilize the guidance they receive, but do not become attached to their decisions. Know always that they too must learn their own lessons, even as you do, and that they too have within them the same spirit abilities that you do, and that they are deeply affected by the choices they make, even as you are by your own.

Life is meant to be lived. Allow it to unfold, as it will. Offer guidance when appropriate, but guidance of spirit, not guidance of burdens; guidance of truth, not guidance of worry or fear; guidance of life as an evolutionary journey; and knowledge of each and every one of us as ultimately responsible for our own journey and no one else’s, neither we for theirs nor they for ours. The time will come when we all must know it is time to let them go off into their futures, fully ready to take on life. Grant them this time. They will look back at you with gladness for your trust in them, and then turn toward their futures, strengthened by your unburdening of them, and your swiftness of heart in granting them access to their own spirit journeys.

Bon voyage, all you young children of the world; go out and change it!

#66 Perk Up a Little Today

Dear Jeanne,
Do you have a message for humanity today?

I speak today not of calamity and devastation, but of focus on growth, expansion, and the ultimate renewal of spirit focus so that you may continue onward along your newfound path. Do not harbor feelings of negativity, but focus now on positive growth and the bright future ahead. You have now within you plenty of knowledge regarding the energy currents now circulating upon that earth. You have knowledge of inclinations to become caught if you are not aware. You know that your journey and the decisions and choices you make are yours alone to ponder and choose. You know that life itself opens doors, the universe supports, and guidance is available, but you also know that it is fully up to you to engage all of this that is available to you, and all else that awaits.

Your place now should become clearer, your direction pointed out, and your whole self firmly planted upon that path. Keep your awareness attuned. Keep your self open to the signs that are available. Keep your tenderness and your compassion at the ready for yourself and others. Stay in balance and you will safely maneuver through rough waters and bad weather. Keep focused and of positive mindset and you will find that your tendencies to fall away from your path, to wander blindly, and to stumble will diminish. Your intent alone is not enough. You must use the new skills you have learned as well to remain focused and in the right frame of wholeness.

Seek what you must to fulfill your lifetime there, but do not overdo any aspect of delving into that reality. Do not over work, over eat, over drink, over binge on anything, including your spiritual endeavors, for in so doing do you go not only out of alignment and balance, but your entire system will suffer and your firm footing in reality will be uprooted. Remember, I always maintain that equal footing in earthly reality and spirit-seeking reality is necessary. For life holds much for your exploration, but you will not have fulfilling experience of either if you do not continually maintain the necessary balance that I speak of so often.

So, continue to have experiences that aid you in your evolutionary growth. Continue to seek experiences of spirit, but also return to your earthly reality and be responsible, mature, and caring of others, and the earth around you. Maintain your earthly presence and engage in the aspects of life that suit your spirit too in this way, following your resonance, while you complete that life as it should be lived. Staying in your resonance will guide you so that you do not overdo any aspect of that life. But, understand that this takes training, experiences, and readjusting of the self on a daily basis.

Review your day, review your activities, and discover if you are truly resonating with your spirit. Or are you still drawn by your inner child, your ego, your greed, your fancy, or your wild self? Check out daily who is really in control and then make adjustments the next day. You are totally in control, so take command of your self, with your spirit knowing at the helm, and you will discover that slowly, with experience, and minor adjustments here and there, can you change and eventually discover that your life is flowing smoothly and easily.

Perk up a little today. Give yourself a firm pat on the back for the recent tough times you have gone through. Remind yourself that life is your learning ground and you are fully committed to this educational pursuit of spirit and resonance. Continue to find your way with your spirit nose sniffing out the direction to take, and your resonance knowing when it is truly correct.

Find your calm, find your place again today, and start from now, fresh and eager to see life, and yourself, as ready for whatever is to come, open, nonjudgmental, and excited to be alive. Give yourself permission to take on life more fully now. You are ready. I know that, don’t you? The times are right for progress even as the times are ripe for destruction. It just depends on which road you choose to travel. There is plenty of energy available for positive change, but there is an equal amount ready to smother those who cannot see this and take them away into darkness. This you have been forewarned about now for a long time. So, how are you going to choose today?

Remember, each day do these energies tussle upon that earth, with you and everyone else feeling it, feeling the tugs and pulls of both the negative dark energy, and the positive light energy. And every day are you given a new opportunity to choose and to change. That’s what life is all about you know, reading the energy and choosing how you are going to engage it with your own energy.

You have learned much about how energy works now. Stay focused, calm, in balance, reading the energy outside of you and feeling your own energy and choosing your way based on this. You can’t go wrong if you follow this, your spirit and your bliss, for this is your truth, and that is all that really matters. Oh, and don’t forget to enjoy it too, all of life, all of your spirit awareness, and all that you now dare to undertake. Fully enjoy it all!

#65 The Energy of Storm and Challenge

Dear Jeanne,
Do you have guidance for all of us today?

The energy will continue to impact you, for it abounds, peaking and ebbing; and times of high energetic activity will continue, followed by lull for some time now. This pattern is set for the next few months, so get used to it, and be prepared for the tossing and turning that this condition precipitates, as well as the exhaustive lows as you are thrown from the heights of that energy down into the valleys of calm that reside between those high peaks.

You are well prepared now. Your balance is trained and in continued training, your calm inner knowing anchoring you as you proceed on your journey. Do not worry so much about my predictions, but instead concentrate on the stability of the self, for this is how you will ride out the storms to come. Forecasts of bad weather do not necessarily mean that you will be affected by each and every storm, but do know that you will be affected by the underlying energy in some fashion. Perhaps a few of the storms will blow over you, but understand that even as they do are you engaged in energetic activity that only such a storm carries, with the possibility of destruction if you are not aware of your own energetic maturity and control. Learn now from your experiences how your energy, your inner spirit energy, if calmly centered, can allow you to weather each and every storm, anchored to your stable knowing. Your balance is your grip on reality even as you are tossed about in the surge of energy entering your life and taking you far from your natural path.

Search for your island of calm at all times. Find upon its sandy beaches the necessary refuge from the storm. Place yourself lovingly upon its warm sand, and allow the earth beneath you to wrap its arms about you and hold you tenderly in its maternal embrace. You are all safe upon that earth. This you must always remember. You are there for this life now, and every aspect of it is meant for you. Even as mother earth embraces you on your journey so must you in return allow this interaction and embrace your journey, for it is meant to guide you along on your evolutionary path.

Continue your practices of calming meditation and the new habits I have taught. You are well versed and well practiced in your calming and balancing habits now. They are becoming more natural aspects of your character, engrained in your psyche, habitual practices that now should easily return you to focus, direction, and stability. As you enact these new habits with a mere command to, “Go into calm!” so will your ride upon those stormy seas become full of understanding as you experience each and every peak of energy as a learning ground. Question the reason for each surge of activity, each confrontation with challenge, and know it is meant for you to engage, not to ignore, or become swallowed up by, drowning in its fury, but fully alert, aware and knowing that it carries you forward into new growth.

Learn from everything that happens to you. Take up the challenges as they appear and stay always focused on your path. Do not get caught in fighting the energy, for you will lose that battle. Flow with it, calmly and soberly, anchored in your calm and your knowing that you will learn what you must from every aspect of life. This is your time of knowing regarding your own spirit resonance, of firm clarity that you desire to seek only energetic responses that match your own. You know that the energy of storm and challenge does not match your true spirit energy, it merely aids you in your growth, so do not succumb to its powerful pull, but stay centered in your own knowing as you ride out its stormy turbulence.

As the storm passes find yourself floating once again upon calmer waters. As you crawl up, or pull yourself with renewed vigor for having come through such a wild ride, upon your sandy beach, rejoice in your ability to withstand, but also survive, such force buffeting and pounding upon your inner spirit. Reflect upon your journey during such time, and question its significance, and find your way now more clearly, knowing that everything that happens from this day forth is meant to fulfill your lifetime upon that earth.

I do not mean to be so dark or gloomy today, but in spite of good energetic vibration and much positive energy is there swirling stormy weather also upon that earth that may come barreling in to your sphere, your life, seeking to disrupt your smoothly flowing life. Learn from these times, even as you learn from the calm times. Perhaps these times are your biggest teaching times, or your biggest awakenings. But, it is up to you, you know. How you choose to understand, how you choose to proceed, and how you choose to view your life, are all meaningful questions. Are you on a journey of spirit or not?

Even as I repeat to you to stay in your calm at all times, so must you allow this new habit to enter your systems, your mental, your physical, and your spiritual systems. Allow it to be your anchor so that you are guided properly, at all times, and in all ways. Open your eyes and see clearly now where you are and you will know what you must do next and where your journey is leading you. I love you all for your trust, your daring, and your bravery. Keep going!

Chuck Ketchel, LCSWR