Jeanne Marie Ketchel
Channeled by Jan Ketchel

Today a reader asks a question.

Dear Jeanne,
I am currently at the hospital where my Mom has been in critical condition for two weeks now. Most of the time she is sleeping, waking only occasionally when it seems she is in pain or to reach for my hand. It seems like her spirit is still strong, yet her body is struggling for every breath. As I am sitting here next to her, I am terrified for that moment when she will stop breathing and, at the same time, wanting her not to “suffer” any longer. I do believe that we choose the moments of our birth and death, but I am haunted by the question as to why we would choose to continue like this. Also, I wonder where her spirit is at this time. There have been times when I feel like I am communicating with her outside her body, then I wonder if I am hallucinating or something.

Thank you always for your gifts of love and continued guidance.

Thank you Jan and Chuck too.

Love,
Debbie

My Dear One, you describe the in-between state quite well in your question. This can be a lengthy process as the moment of death is awaited by the recipient and those who are left to ponder. Death comes at the right time, at the moment when it is most necessary, but also at the moment that has, indeed, been predetermined, for we do all choose our moment, as you propose. However, how we reach that moment and in what condition we live out our last breaths are determined by how we have chosen to live our lives. So you see, though we choose our lives upon that earth, we also choose many scenarios and give ourselves many options in which to choose enlightenment and evolution. To determine the outcome of our lifetimes we must gain awareness of something greater, beyond ourselves, and this process takes place right up to the moment of our death.

Your mother now lies upon the shores of new life, waiting for her time in one life to end, finalized as she has chosen to complete it, and yet is she also aware of new life to come. In this in-between stage of existence one is open to experiences and aware, in a vague and dreamy way, of two worlds. This is the time of shift, a nebulous time of awareness of two worlds, so one is both present and absent, in body and out of body, in conscious state and in unconscious state. But do not take that to mean lack of awareness, for awareness at this time is both waning and awakening.

Awareness of the world that you, My Dear Debbie, exist in is waning for your mother, who knows of your presence as an engaging spirit, connected for many lives, holding historical data shared by the two of you, yet awareness of your present world has already ceased to be important to her. It is the connection to energy of that world that now holds her to you; her hand reaching out to you in energetic awareness of the world that she is leaving. Her energy body is seeking new awareness as she lies upon the shore, on the edge of a new sea of awareness, the waves gently lapping, inviting her to remember this other world, this other awareness where she has been many times before in energetic form.

If she appears out of body and holds you in her gaze with loving tenderness, or distant remoteness and detachment, do not ponder your own state, for you are not hallucinating or in distress of mental breakdown but, in fact, being invited by her to experience the glory of the disembodied state, the energy state. You cannot deny that its energy is interesting to you, though your rationality wishes to dismiss it.

Allow your self to have the experiences that you receive, for they are gifts from a mother who has not had an opportunity to give you anything that is so meaningful for your future. Although the past is not her intention at this point, you must find a way to attend to her present and future selves for your own resolution. As you watch, wait, and experience your mother’s passing be aware that you are in the presence of transforming energy as it seeks both release and relief in one world and new awareness and new life in another world.

The in-between time is full of interesting tidbits of information for both the waning one and the waiting one. Use your own awareness to understand the questions you pose today, for only in your own experiences will you fully grasp what is being enacted and intended for both you and your family in the presence of transformational energy. Each of you who are present will have a different experience, though each of you must seek to discover what your own lesson is.

What are you being shown by this woman you call mom? What is she showing you alone, for others may not see the same things you see and experience? What is her present state that she seeks to show you, and why does she do this now, at the hour of her death?

You are present at the moment of catalyst. Why? Hold onto your own awareness of two worlds, My Dear Debbie, as you are also in-between now, available to experience two worlds, being shown energetic awareness as it manifests in its many possible forms. Look for energy and you will find clarity. This is also your mother’s process, to look for her own resonant energy, to maintain her awareness of self as energy, and to allow her process to continue, as she holds onto knowledge of her own lessons learned in one life while grasping at what are necessary lessons in new life.

One life does determine the next life. It does determine the process of the in-between state and the process of the time between lives as well. Each life is significant. Each life is fulfilling. Each life is evolutionary. Do not judge another’s journey, but be open to the profound significance of energy as it travels now onward, gratifying it freedom to move on, releasing it to its future.

All life is future life, even as the past must be reviewed, assimilated, and gained perspective on. Even as resolution and acceptance must be gained regarding a life lived, so are the final moments doors of awareness that new life awaits.

I hope my answers and my guidance will open your own doors of awareness as you are granted access to the transformational energy that resides in the body and out of the body of this woman who is, and once was, your mother. Now it is time for you to understand what “mother” means in your present life as she goes into new life, at the moment of her grand transfusion of energy from one state to another, as simply enacted as a slipping away into the waves of awareness as they draw her further from the shores of two worlds and into her new life of awareness in another world.

Her spirit is in her energy and in the choices she has made and now makes. Let her have her experiences, as you also now accept your own experiences of her as an energy being. Watch her closely, with your own energy being, and beware of the conjuring mind, which will seek always to detach from such energy experiences. Stay connected.